S. LEE WRIGHT
HOLISTIC INNER DESIGNS
Do you find yourself always drawn to the same things?  Do you always eat the same foods? Wear the same colors? Walk the same paths?

 

Do you put on the same coat every day?

If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, then you are operating at over 50% on autopilot and perhaps you are not doing the things that most serve you right now.
 Did you know that most people operate in a cycle of old habits and patterns without thinking about it?
Really, it makes sense. If we had to make all the decisions we need to in order to function every single day, our brains would overload pretty quickly. So we file our decisions into a category of decisions made, and then stop thinking about them and just go with the flow.
However, sometimes this does not serve us.  Have you changed your style in the last 20 years? Or have you just stopped thinking about it, and put on the same clothes day after day?
Does your space reflect you or someone else? - Like your grandmother?

Does your space reflect you or someone else? – Like your grandmother?

Being of the mindset that I believe our spaces deeply affect the way we live our lives, I feel we need to make sure they are a reflection of who we are in this moment and we are not stuck in some sort of time warp from years ago.
Being conscious about what you like now takes some active participation. I ask all of my prospective clients what amount of time that they are willing and able to participate in the project.  Because I do not want to have to design in a vacuum and make choices without my client’s full engagement.  The Socratic or Holistic method of design is when the design is made in specific alignment with the person or persons that will be inhabiting or utilizing it.  It therefore must take some active participation.
Surrounding yourself with things that make you feel good, makes you a happier person.

Surrounding yourself with things that make you feel good, makes you a happier person.

So how do you know what your style is?
Start paying attention to the things that make you happiest. I have created a process to help tease from my clients what their likes-dislikes are so we can determine and define what it is their own design style is.  I made it an interactive and fun process, asking the sorts of questions we rarely allow ourselves to really get into or even ever think about. Like what was your favorite vacation or holiday? Where was it? What was it that made it special? Location, season, the people you were with? Or what is your favorite season? And describe why? Or even what is your favorite meal?
To me, these answers all start to paint a picture of the person you are and helps us to define the type of spaces that would enhance and support you.
You have to be willing to ask yourself the questions if you want the answers

Here is a client’s Magic Box contents.  You have to be willing to ask yourself the questions if you want the answers

Your style ought to come from inside you, and not from an outside source such as TV or your spouse.  Of course, watching HGTV and reading books, or magazines often give you an insight into the spaces that you like. Just make sure you are being realistic and not just having dreams of someone else’s life because of our natural reaction that the grass is always greener on the other side.
I once hired an image consultant to help me transition my life from corporate work to self-employed. She made me realize I was dressing for the body I wanted (tall, skinny and un-curvy) which was not serving me. She helped to me embrace the body I have and to dress accordingly to enhance it versus to try to hide it. It rocked my world and made me feel so much better about myself.  Our individual styles are reflected in both our spaces as well as in our own personal styles.
Gloaming Room Studios Art

Dress according to who you are helps define your own style

Your space style ought to be realistic too.  Do not fall in love with the modern sleek look of the European kitchens with everything stored away and nothing on the countertops unless this really serves your real life and not an imaginary one.
Remember there is no right or wrong.  Being uniquely you is a good thing. It is the spice of life and makes it a very interesting place indeed.  I have never designed the same thing. I decided early in my career to not have a signature design style.  That I wanted to have the continual challenge of helping YOU discover what you love, versus convincing you that my style was superior or better than your own.
It’s not just another pretty space. It is your space; it is a reflection of who you are in this moment.  And it will change and evolve over time.  Space should not stay the same, as the people that live in them do not.
Changing your design & style over time is a healthy practice!

Changing your design & style over time is a healthy practice!

We need to make sure we question these things regularly in order to make sure we are surrounding ourselves with the things that we love, that support us and lift us up.  Our spaces should function as a physical boost to the things we must do in our daily lives and in the way that suits you.  If your life is focused on food, then your kitchen ought to play a key feature in your space.  If your life is focused on your kids, then your living room and play areas ought to play a key feature in your space.
Your design style comes from within.  Start to look around you and your design style will become apparent very quickly.